Come through 2019. This year started off on such a high and positive note. Y’all know that traveling has always been my thing and by the time this trip came about, it felt like I was caged for way too long.

I spent my last days of 2018 and my first few days of 2019 living it up across the pond. I was fortunate enough to make my way to London during my first Europe tour and words cannot even describe how amazing it was.

London has been a dream destination for as long as I can remember and to be able to visit this 21st century through my hard work was a dream come true. It is often considered as the world’s leading global city. known for its impact on the arts, education, entertainment, fashion, finance and healthcare, its one of the most visited cities. It is literally the NewYork of England and Europe.

I have a cousin and a couple of friends who live in London and outside London. I knew without a doubt that they were going to be my tour guide. Aside from visiting this gorgeous city, I was also going to reconnect with an old time friend.

Sandra and I go way back. She was one of my childhood friends and we also went to the same middle school back in Kenya. #Consolatadays

who I remember as the shy yet smart and a very put together individual, is exactly who I met after 20years since we last saw each other. Only this time, I met a young lady who’s not only grown into her beauty both in and out but a woman whose liberated herself into her glory. Not gonna lie but Sandra is the epitome of who I want to be when I grow up. Y’all know I am still childish and petty but that’s besides the point. In all honesty, I am still amazed and honored that I can call Sandra a friend. I first reconnected with Sandra over social media over the years and that’s how we kept in touch. What I thought was only gonna be a coffee or maybe even a lunch date to re-connect and catch up, ended up being a whole reunion vacation that allowed us to get to know each other all over again as adults.

Come to think of it, the best part of the trip was mostly because of the company I was with.

England was so good to me, I would not mind moving there. I know I say this all the time with literally every place I have visited but the fact of the matter still remains that my heart is a wanderer and I will not settle till I move to my destined place.  On the real though, this had to be the most expensive trip I have ever planned. I mean all the places I have traveled to internationally, the dollar has always worked in my favor and I guess that’s why it took me a long time to make my way to Europe.

Here are some quick tips if you are also planning to travel across the pond. First of all, give yourself at least a week if you dare visit. This way you can get to at least experience the culture and the city fully. We did all the things we had set out to do which has never happened when I go on vacation. Of course with a huge help from Sandra who happened to know the city in and out. The highlights were definitely the nightlife, the culture and experiencing the British tea in the afternoon. This is aside from all the touristy stuff. (London eye, Big Ben, Buckingham Palace etc). You can check this out on my Instagram page within the highlight section because I documented everything.{@Victor_4realzz}For accommodation, Airbnb was the better and cheaper option. london has a good public transportation system and that’s all we used. Ubers are hella expensive so don’t even bother. Another quick tip is if you can set up a contactless payment either on your phone through your debit card, it is so much easier and cheaper as well.London farewell but your boy will be back!

Podcasts📻🎙

One thing I have learned is that the older you get, you tend to look for different things to inspire you and motivate you. You can call this part of adulting but at this stage of my life, I am always in search of things that are relatable or fall in line with where I am at currently. While reading self-help books, or biographies is the obvious go-to answer, podcasts are a good alternative. Also being the fact that podcasting is the new wave, I was very curious to check it out and give it a shot. I haven’t gotten a chance to listen to an audiobook yet but I am guessing it is the same experience.

With such a busy schedule, I have been able to incorporate podcasts into my lifestyle. I listen to my fave podcast in the car, when I am at the gym or even in the morning when I am getting ready for work.  If podcasts are your thing or you are looking to get started, here is my top five that I think everybody, especially in our generation, Should listen to.

The spread:

This is the first podcast that ever I listened to and will forever remain a classic.  My best friend Natalie actually introduce me to it. shes also one of the few that influenced me into the podcast gang. when I started listening to podcasts, I was using Sound Cloud and this is because it was the only place you could find The Spread podcast at the time. The Spread is an R-rated Kenyan podcast that was started out by Nini Wacera and Kaz. Nini is a well-renowned actress and radio host while Kaz is a musician, socialite and influencer within the entertainment industry in Kenya.  Both women talk everything about sex, sexuality and body. It basically revolves around sex positivity and all aspects of embracing it. The spread has now even grown to bigger height with only Kaz being the host. Not sure what happened to Nini but it kinda wasn’t the same for me. Although its still remains one of my favourite podcasts.

Jesus and Jollof:

Currently, this is on repeat. A podcast that’s hosted by Yvonne Orji from the show Insecure on HBO and Luvvie Ajayi whose an author, speaker, and digital strategist. These two friends came together and literally created a masterpiece. With both of them being Nigerian, all their stories are based from an African perspective. They talk about relationships, religion, their struggles to following their dreams within the entertainment industry and most of all, being black and African in a Donald trump world. Their chemistry is out of this world and they are hilarious. I promise you, you will die laughing especially when they switch back and forth into their Nigerian accents. let’s just say I have listened to the whole season more than once.

Rants and Randomness:

This is also another fave. It is a solo podcast by the same Luvvie Ajayi from Jesus and Jollof. she started this podcast way before Jesus and Jollof and is part of her brand. In this podcast, Ajayi shares advice and knowledge about trending topics that she’s passionate about and also rants on things that shes come across. Within every episode, Ajayi interviews black successful individuals who have made it within the industry. From Shea Moisture CEO and creator Rich Dennis to actor and singer Jussie Smollet.  the guests on this podcast talk about their struggles and their journey to where there are today.

Super Soul Sunday:  This podcast is Oprah’s personal selection of her interviews and conversations with thought-leaders, authors and health & wellness experts. I don’t have cable but I’ve always been a huge fan of super soul Sunday so it’s really nice to get these free episodes through the podcast. this podcast is where I get my Spiritual and mental health fix. literally food to my soul.

So these are just a few of the podcast that I am crazy about. I listen to them on a regular basis and are my go-to when I need to be inspired or just re-energized emotionally and mentally. Because I have an iPhone, I am able to use the podcast app that’s already installed on the phone. Its a very user-friendly and has made it much easier to access my favorite podcasts. #teamiphoneallday

make sure to like, share and leave a comment on your take on podcasts as well as let me know what you think about these specific podcast.

Cancun, Mexico 🇲🇽 🌴☀️

Let me just start off by saying writing on the regular or maintaining this blog is a work in progress. It’s not the lack of content but rather the time, motivation and energy for me to sit down and write. Of course when I do write it’s always therapeutic. Think of it as going to the gym. The hardest part is literally gathering all of yourself and going to the gym. But after you get there and work out, it’s the best feeling ever. So please bear with me and continue showing the love and support. I promise I will get it together.

So it’s the beginning of summer and Lord knows this had been a long time coming. Literally, this was my light and rainbow at the end of my hurricane.  This past winter season had truly been the test of time if it wasn’t already the lowest point of my life.  Afro-Flava wasn’t doing well, my minimum wage job that I had at the time wasn’t working out and having car troubles were some of the experiences life was throwing at me. I was basically trying to make ends meet. Paying my rent at the time was a mission and a half. Looking back, I am still stunned that I was able to push through and make it out. (Those are some stories for another time)

My friends and I had been talking about going on a tropical trip together to start off the summer. All those winter months of watching travel vlogs from the likes of Lydia Dinga, Est-Are and among many others, it was time for us to make our dream a reality. At this point, I had saved a little bit from the new job I had started towards the end of winter into spring. We originally had planned to go to Thailand but the flight prices were not working in our favour. Besides, the amount of hours it takes to travel to Thailand, one needs at least two weeks to not only recover the jetlag but to fully explore Thailand and some of the other Asian countries. (This is still goals). We then settled going to Cuba until last minute when we found out how one has to typically carry cash for the entire trip since debit cards from America do not work there. Let’s not forget the struggles of customs getting into Cuba. (Thanks Trump for ruining it for us after Obama had cleaned up the mess.) After intense deliberation, Cancun, Mexico was where it was meant to be. None of us had been there and some of the packages were within our budget.

We got a package of about $700.00 per person that was all-inclusive (food and liquor, flight and accommodation for 6 days 5 nights). I don’t know about you but that’s a pretty decent deal. This was also the first trip of the year so the hype was very much anticipated. It was also the first time travelling with a big group which I was very selective in going just because the vibe had to be right.

Cancun is a Mexican city on the Yucatán Peninsula bordering the Caribbean Sea. It, is known for its beaches, numerous resorts and nightlife. Just Like every travel destination, Cancun is composed of 2 distinct areas. The more traditional downtown area, El Centro, and Zona Hotelera, a long, beachfront strip of high-rise hotels, nightclubs, shops and restaurants. Cancun is a popular destination for college students during the spring break period.it is also a very popular destination for black folks especially for memorial weekend

We stayed at Princess Yucatan Resort which is about 40 mins drive outside Cancun. A resort that I must say I will definitely go back. We also bought different activities beforehand so when were there we wouldn’t have had to worry about money or any surprising costs. Going to Cancun was the first trip I had done in terms of going on a full vacation resort. You all know that when I travel I like to experience the culture and learn the way of life. Unfortunately this trip was not one of those but at the same time you can’t blame me after the stormy weather I went through. All I wanted was to bask in the sun by the pool with my cocktails and relax.

This trip was everything and more. Not only was it much needed but it was a reward to myself. I am grateful I got to experience this trip and just like I imagined it did set the tone for the rest of the summer. Make sure to follow me on Instagram @Victor_4realzz and check-out my highlight for the full visual aspect of the trip because words cannot express the magical experience.

Back At It. 🥂🍷🍾#winetasting

It’s been close to two years since I visited a vineyard and had a wine tasting session. Today, all the memories came rushing back from the mini adventures that I ventured in South Africa through my wine tasting escapades. Oh Stellenbosch how I miss you.

For those who’ve been with me from back in the day, I am sure you know what am talking about. If you haven’t, please do yourself a favour and go check out my archives and you’ll get all the way caught up.

I got a chance to visit Nashoba Valley Winery in Bolton Massachusetts with a group of special folks. Two of my co-workers who I adore to death and Esther who I met for the first time but had a lot of mutual friends. Esther if you’re reading this, I am still baffled why our so called “friends” never introduced us because the connection was too real.

This is my first official wine tasting experience in America and I must say, “What the hell have I been doing with my life?” Quick note to all my wine lovers. It doesn’t matter what location, city or country. The culture of wine tasting is literally all the same. As soon as we arrived, I felt right at home. Not to be extra and all dramatic but I did feel like the prodigal son that had finally returned home.

For just $15, we got to taste and sample 10 different wines out of at least 20 options based on one’s preference. Well technically, you get 10 tokens and you can use them to sample wine, beer or brandy. Of course I used all of mine to try the wines.  Compared to Rands (SA currency🇿🇦), this is some bull pricing but for the average Americans, this is absolutely affordable. The atmosphere and the energy was absolutely amazing. From the open greenery fields to the actual vineyards, the views were absolutely stunning and very relaxing as well.

Towards the end, we bought a couple bottle of wines. Some to take home and the rest to sip while we ate and enjoyed the day and the views.  What better way to soak it all in with some good vibes, friends and amazing outlooks.

The weather was perfect as well which added to the aesthetics of the property that contributed to a dope Instagram pic. As I am getting older, the clubbing scene/night life is kinda getting too outdated for me and I am finding myself leaning towards these kind of vibes and hobbies.

I absolutely recommend for everyone to check out Nashoba Valley Winery. It’s perfect for a date, mini day get away for couples, friends and even with family. Stay tuned because there’s definitely gonna be more post on my wine adventures.

All Good Things Must Come To An End.

All Good Things Must Come To An End.

It has been a long eventful 6 months and in just a couple of hours I will be getting on a flight back home.🛫✈️ Words cannot even express the emotions, thoughts and feelings racing through my mind.​

​When I started this adventure, I was running away from the norm in my life. Looking forward to something new and opening myself to new possibilities, friends and most of all, a new dream to live and fight for. The man that I was beginning this journey is not the same man that I am right now as I write this blog.

Looking back, its not as easy and glamorous as it looks or sounds. I have been forced to face my fears, tackle new challenges, spend a lot of money, find myself and even re-evalute my life. Through this process I have been truly humbled. Theres been a lot of tears, joy, laughter and most of all, a closer relationship with God.

As I go back home,  I vow to practice all that I have learnt in the past 6 months and live life to the fullest. The motivation and inspiration that I was all along looking for, has ignited the fire in my heart that was once dying out.Reflecting on the memories, adventures, old friends that I have re-connected and new friendships that I have made along the way, will truly and forever be tattooed in my heart.

Thank you to all those who took the time to walk with me through this journey. See you on the other side.👋🏾✌🏾

My Maternal Home 🏡🇰🇪🌍

East, west home is always the best. There’s nothing like the feeling of comfort, true existence and peace that you get when your in your own home. They say It’s one thing to live in a house but it’s another to live in a home. All my life, I have had the opportunity to live in different houses but none of them have had the impact like the home that  I was once raised in. 

It’s been over 10 years and the only thing that has kept me close to this house are the vivid memories that I have held onto,from my childhood days. We all have some type of foundation, where your individual roots are bound. For me,this home has always been the base of my roots. The sense of belonging that I got as soon as I walked into the compound, has been a feeling that I have longed for in the many years I have been away. 

When I remember where I have come from, this is the first place that comes to mind. As funny and weird as it sounds, I do believe the man that I am today has been the impact of the time spent and shared memories by loved ones in this house. My dreams, goals and ambition are driven by the values and morals that were instilled in me while growing up here. Even in pure silence, I can still hear the sound of life and feel the warmth of human contact that once occupied this house. 

In the spirit of thanks giving, I am truly honored to finally spend it at my maternal home. At the core where it all started. Surrounded by memories full of love, tears, pain, joy and laughter. 

Happy Thanks Giving.🍴 🦃🍽

When one Door closes, another one Opens!! 🚪🎆🚪

They say that all good things must come to an end. That when one door closes, another one opens. Personally, I can’t believe it’s finally coming to an end. My stay here in South Africa has literally flown by. It was just the other day I was panicking about leaving home and making this big move. Funny how life works. Not only does it force you to grow but self discovery becomes a continues journey with no end destination. My experiences here in South Africa 🇿🇦 will always have a special place in my heart. Initially I didn’t know what to expect. All I knew was that I was in search of something that I still cannot put my finger on upto this date. I needed a change and wanted some type of renewed motivation. I wanted a break from the norm and find new inspiration. The only way I knew to achieve this was to make a drastic change and what better way than to travel half way across the world to a country where nobody knew me and I didn’t know anyone. Truth be told, it was an “Eat,Pray & Love” type of situation and believe it or not, it WORKS!!

The Rainbow Nation has truly surpassed my expectations. I was able to find the things I was looking for and more. From takin on new adventures everyday to lifetime friendships I have formed. Words cannot express the gratitude I have. This newly found confidence, self appreciation and inspiration that I have acquired is proving to be one of the ingredients that I needed to take on the next chapter in my life.Thank you to all those who have supported me in this journey. My family and friends for not only their financial support but their love and understanding that this was something I needed to do for myself. I am grateful to God for fulfilling this dream because HE is the only one who knew how important this experience meant to me. Now that it’s time to move on, I can’t help but be nervouse to what life has in store for me. Being originally Kenyan🇰🇪, I have decided to further this journey to my homeland. Re-kindle old friendships, visit family and relatives. In order for me to move forward I have to remember where I came from and remind myself  the main reason I was put on this earth. 

Please join me in this new adventure as I take on the city under the sun and show you what my mother land has to offer. 🇰🇪🌍☀️