One thing I have learned is that the older you get, you tend to look for different things to inspire you and motivate you. You can call this part of adulting but at this stage of my life, I am always in search of things that are relatable or fall in line with where I am at currently. While reading self-help books, or biographies is the obvious go-to answer, podcasts are a good alternative. Also being the fact that podcasting is the new wave, I was very curious to check it out and give it a shot. I haven’t gotten a chance to listen to an audiobook yet but I am guessing it is the same experience. Continue reading “Podcasts📻🎙”
It’s the city that never sleeps. From its vibrant culture and city lights to the hustle and flow mentality of every soul, New York might just be the next move. I know I have always wanted to move out from my home state (Lowell, Massachusetts) and move to a place where I could finally plant my own roots and lay the foundation of my life. As scary and crazy as it sounds the big apple might be destined for me.
So this whole idea started when I recently went for a weekend to celebrate a friend’s birth day. Long story short it was LIT. I am talking about from the night life to a day of sightseeing. We ended up renting an Airbnb in Manhattan for the few days we were there and commuted everywhere using subway or Uber. Over the years, I have been fortunate enough to visit NYC several times but it was only this time round where I got to see NY for its true authentic self and I completely fell in love. They weren’t wrong when they said home is where the heart is. In the past when I visited, I only did the touristy stuff. Visiting Times Square, Brooklyn Bridge, Statue of Liberty and so on and so forth. But it was until I got to experience the culture is when I finally fell in love.
NY is well known for its diversity. It’s literally a melting pot of everybody from different cultures and all walks of all life. One thing for sure, you’re bound to at least meet every race and ethnicity. According to worldsrtides.com, More than 800 languages are spoken in New York City, making it the most linguistically diverse city in the world. 4 in 10 households speak a language other than English.
It’s crazy because everybody that I have told about the idea of moving to NY has basically looked at me crazy. They get this look on their face of ‘WTF’. The notion of NY being an expensive city and the fast paced doesn’t scare me at all. I mean it does a little bit but it’s in the sense of the fact that I am getting out of my comfort zone. But all in all the idea of proving everybody wrong and challenging myself on a different level of capacity is one of the few things that’s actually attracting me to it.
In this journey, I have made sure to check other parts of NY just in case this whole city thing doesn’t really work out for me. I had the opportunity to visit a good friend who lives in Albany, NY. Albany definitely shocked me. It wasn’t what I expected it to be. Meaning, I was expecting upstate New York vibes and a whole lot of countryside. (I apologize for my ignorance and bad geography skills.) Although being the capital for NY and way much smaller than NYC, it left a good impression on me. A city that’s way more diverse in every aspect than what I am used to still contributed to my love for the state as a whole. Let’s not forget the beauty of its architectural buildings and its rich history of the American people.
When I think of living in the big apple I picture myself like the likes of Janet mock the co-stars of the new show hustle in Brooklyn, Jessica Parker in sex and the city and some of my favorite people that I follow or look up to. From their career paths to the social lifestyle. Low-key, they have made it look easy but I am ready to hustle and grind to make it in this big city. Failure is absolutely not an option.
All in all I am not putting my eggs all in one basket. The whole point of this post is to put the idea out into the universe and let it manifest towards my end goal. Maybe New York will not work out. It might be a different city or town in Massachusetts or even a different country but am so ready to plant my seeds in a different garden. Wherever that maybe, I am ready to spread my wings and soar.
In the recent years I have found different ways to express myself. Through Music, the art of cooking and photography. But my newest form of expression or rather my new form of therapy has been travelling and fashion. Initially when I started this blog, it was specifically for travelling but later on it just made sense to talk about my experiences and my journey as a whole.
For today’s post I wanted to share my interest for fashion specifically. In all honesty I don’t think I have ever had a conversation with anyone about my sense of style and how or why I can express myself through it. I have always just allowed it to speak for itself. I would never call myself a fashion expert or any type of fashion influencer but I do believe that I have a type of swag that can be well respected with those in the fashion community.
I would say my sense of style is very versatile, hence why I shop everywhere and anywhere. I don’t care about brand names (my bank account doesn’t even allow it if you know what I mean). As long as it looks good on me, I am all for it. I kind of started paying attention to the way I dressed between my later years of high school and going to college. At this point it was basically figuring out what works for me. Being on the heavier set, it’s not the same like for the average norm. Knowing what stores would carry your size yet still have a variety of styles to choose from that would also cater to your budget.
Name brand stores like forever 21, H&M which cater to the younger generation and style, sadly don’t accommodate as much to those who happen to be a little heavier. Personally I am always lucky whenever I can find something that fits, stylish and is current. I mean it’s great that right now we can have thicker models on the runway and brands that are catering to the average size woman but what about our fellow gents who are big and tall?
I don’t know about you but for me, whenever I get dressed up it has to be appreciated. Meaning the justice of the outfit needs to be served. Have you ever dressed really well and by the end of the day it feels as if your outfit just went to waste so you end up repeating the same outfit for another day/event? Well that’s exactly what it means when your outfit’s justice is not served.
When I dress good, it makes me feel good and it adds to my confidence which is portrayed by my energy and how I interact with people. It compliments my whole being and who I am as an individual. I always feel like I am telling a story and exuding a character every time I pay attention to what I wear.
It didn’t help that I went to a school in the middle of nowhere, where my environment was very country. Not that there is anything wrong with that in fact, I did walk away with a newfound taste of fashion sense for that type of environment. You see, if you really love fashion, you see beauty and style out of clothes, accessories and any fabric known to man. During this period of time while in school, I began collecting pieces and “must have fashion items “. Like I said before, being on the heavier set is a full time job when shopping for clothes. It was also at this period of time where I learnt a lot about thrifting which I must say has played a big role that’s added to my knowledge for good quality materials.
If you look at my style today, you will see that I like to incorporate a touch of different styles that contribute to an entire outfit. Currently I have been more attracted to print styles and that retro/vintage style. (my dad back in the day)
When it comes to accessories I love African pieces from the necklace to my wrist game. Finding inspiration through fashion gurus from Instagram socialites like Michael Anthony who’s based in Detroit and Julian Hernandez from Stockholm has also greatly influenced my style and confidence.
Now that you’ve gotten a glimpse of how I express myself, I want to know how you express yourself. If you can relate or just enjoyed reading this piece, make sure to leave a comment and don’t forget to share and subscribe.