Rants & Randomness😡😩😒

So this is an epidemic that I honestly don’t know how to overcome but needs to be addressed immediately. The world is evolving and so is its technology. If you don’t know me by now, I like to document and capture every moment either through social media or just for the sake of it. Some might say I am a social media addict but I believe I am just an artist perfecting my craft. Long story short, I am frustrated and tired of being that friend that takes the good pics but don’t get the favor in return. For those who are active on social media whether it’s for work or pleasure or the ones who like to finesse even for the wrong reasons, together we shall rise.

Yup, you guessed it. Today’s blog post is literally a rant. For my friends (you know yourselves), I dedicate this post to you as well. I Am calling out all those folks who be expecting a good picture but in return do a dis-honor to the photographer.For lack of a better name, we call these folks enemy of progress. And Yes, I do say photographer only because these group of people are the ones who understand the art of taking a good pic. You know, from the lighting to hyping you up and even helping you get that good caption for the gram (Instagram).

Personally it’s happened to me several times with my friends. One minute Were literally vibing at a dope location wherever that maybe and then when it comes to taking pictures of each other, the ultimate disrespect comes out. So having the talent that I have, I take amazing pictures of my so called “friends” but it’s never reciprocated and if it is, it’s after hours of taking thousands of pics just to get the one. Now some of ya’ll might state that it’s because I am not photogenic but I rebuke ya’ll in the name of Jesus. The truth of the matter is, those that take the ugly pics just got two left hands.

The frustration is real because some of us are single meaning every representation of our self is an opportunity of a future significant other to notice us. Social media has addressed this issue by making memes out of it. Yes it’s hilarious but not when it’s happening to you.

All am saying lets be considerate of each other. If you know that you are an enemy of progress, get it together and change your ways. For those who are on the struggle and can completely relate, Please let’s keep hope alive and continue the journey in search of that friend who will reciprocate the good deed we share with our closest ones while finessing on the inter webs.

LUCY

I wouldn’t call myself a creative guru but after this photoshoot, might as well add it to my repertoire.

Since the beginning of summer, one of my best friend Lucy mentioned that she wanted to do a photo shoot for her 24th  birthday. Now I am not sure if you remember her from one of my last post, “Whitney”. she was the creative director/Make up Artist on that shoot and we created magic. Just like me, homegirl knows how to work the camera behind and in front of the lens.

I would say lucy and I are one and the same when it comes to the creative aspects. We tend to be on the same page and have the same vision. For this photoshoot, I was very eager to challenge myself on the creative director role, especially with the trust and confidence that my dear friend bestowed upon me.

We also partnered up with our other good friend Rita, owner and publisher of VisualMag who is a beast when it comes to photography. A woman who’s dedicated her career to telling stories through visuals has proven that dreams can be valid with a lot of hard work, ambition and the attitude of a “go-getter’. Make sure to check out her work and be inspired.

We woke up at 3 am and had to be at the location (Salem, MA) by 5 am in order to catch the sunrise. The whole point of the shoot was to catch that natural lighting. Believe it or not, this was the first photo shoot we ever did as friends many moons ago. Aside from the runaround, being at this location brought so many memories and added that bit of luck and charm for a successful shoot. We literally watched and experienced an idea that started out as a joke come to life.

Lucy, I hope this was everything you dreamed of. As you mark another year in the bag, I wish you more joy and happiness. Better yet, I grant you the wish of partnering with me in the many more projects to come.

Through my previous posts, I believe I have proven to Y’all my capabilities as a model and photographer. Now check me out as I dominate the role of Creative Director. Make sure to show some love, subscribe, repost if you can and comment. Enjoy the pictures.

2018 Baby!!!✨🙌🏾💥

It’s been a minute since I put my thoughts into words. Basically, I have been MIA (Missing in Action) from blogging. I have never thought of myself as a writer but more of a story teller through word of mouth. Blogging was just an alternative that I fell in love with along the way.

Most of you who write or blog already know that the hardest part about the job aside from having ‘writers block’ is being able to keep up with the writing. For me the disease of a “writer’s block” did not affect me, It was merely just a case of laziness and lack of motivation that drove me away. Don’t get me wrong either, Life also played its role in contributing to me being MIA but hey, I am taking full responsibility and I am back now! 2018 is a new year, new me.

A lot has happened since I last shared with ya’ll. I ended up quitting my job as a server, travelled a little bit more, got a new job and last but not least, the biggest change out of them all was me moving into my own apartment or should I say studio. I also met new friends along the way and became closer to folks I never thought we would cross paths. I know it’s crazy because one of my last post that I wrote last year, I talked about sharing my journey and bringing you guys along. I am a man of my word and I still vow to share those stories with you as part of my content. I am thinking of creating a segment called ‘Story Time’. This is where I will share my stories that were content worthy that I should have shared with yall in the past. A lot of vloggers do this on their YouTube pages. For those who are avid YouTube watchers, it’s pretty much the same thing.

Just in case you’re still wondering, Afro Flava is still pushing through. I still cook part time and I must say the experience has taught and still teaches me new things every day. #FuturePost

As of now let’s cheers to new beginnings, more content and new adventures.

The so called “Dating Life”😕.

The journey to self-discovery has no end! It’s a continuous voyage that one can only learn along the way while being put to the test to what you have already learned. Life has not wasted any moment in putting me through different tests, where I have had to prove that I did learn from my past and can’t afford to make the same mistakes.

As human beings it’s natural to yearn and search for a soulmate whether for friendship or intimacy through a significant other. Personally I have been open to satisfying this urge and in the process, I have come across folks who are on the path to satisfy the same need. In other words I have joined the dating scene and it’s not as easy or fun as I hoped it would be. It’s actually been more exhausting.

I am quite a social person or so I would like to believe but who thought dating in this generation is a whole type of ball game. Being an old-school type of individual (meaning I’ve tried online dating, not into hook ups or friends with benefits), I feel like a different type of breed partaking in the world of dating among my peer group. If you don’t know what I am talking about, monogamous/committed relationships in my generation is quite hard to find. Personally I’ve always been open to dating, so I’ve had my share of online dates as well as “fun” but just recently, is when I became serious about it. Especially now that its summer and its a new chapter of my life, I thought I would give it a shot.

Funny how some people that I’ve met can really test your whole being (insecurities and all). I guess the point of this blog post is that there’s a very thin line to settling for less in order to fulfill the urge of finding a significant other. Whether it’s for intimacy or just friendship. Being always the single one among your friends can get pretty frustrating. Although I do know what I deserve, I would be lying if I said that through this process I’ve allowed to be disrespected to a certain extent where I did question my worthiness. Hence my self-discovery journey was put to the test.

Now that I’ve moved back home, I also thought I would reconnect old friendships as well as extend olive branches to friendships that had died. Being in a new found space doesn’t mean the other party is in the same type of space. As much as I have gained and grown from this friendships, it doesn’t mean that they will last forever. As my mother always said, “friends come and go, some of them are just designated  for a season.

Part of being an adult and truly loving yourself flaws and all, is realizing when to let go. Moving forward, dating for me will be put to the back burner as I focus my energy on other projects and adventures that I would love to venture on. This is not to say that I have given up but rather allow for the process to come naturally and let fate make its course.

Uber Chronicles on Love🚘🚙❤️💞🇿🇦


I have had my share of using uber in the past but never really got assimilated with it therally. But through my stay here in South Africa, it has become my main mode of transport. 
It can get a little pricey especially the more you commute into the city which would be Cape Town but in the long run its the best means of transport when it comes to safety, compared to using public transport. Furthermore, it is also cheaper than getting a cab🚖. 
Most uber drivers usually end up striking a conversation, Which personally has been quite interesting. Somehow I find that this is a great way to meet locals and get to know more about the culture and some hot spots to check out during your stay.🚨Besides, What better way of getting your best reviews from people who live and go to those places on a regular basis. 


So far, My experience has given me the opportunity to meet many local uber drivers who mostly happen to be originally from Zimbabwe. With each one having a story to tell, some tend to be heart breaking while for others,  it’s a case of a side hustle but all with the same goal. In search of a better life.

The topics of conversation usually range from weather to politics and sometimes can even get a little bit personal. On my way back from Cape Town earlier today, I got to meet Rudzani who was my uber driver. Originally from Limpopo a small town bordering Zimbabwe , Rudzani has lived in Cape Town for the past 13 years. He is married and a proud father of two children. For him uber driving is just a part time job to get extra spending money. 

From the get go, he welcomed me into his car with a warm big smile and to my surprise, a free cup of coffee☕️. I don’t know about you, but personally, anything that is free gets my full undivided attention. To my knowledge, not all ubers offer free drinks but I guess I just happened to be at the right place at the right time. Instantly I knew we were going to connect. 

It usually takes about 40 minutes ride to Cape Town from my residence on campus. So you already know we had ample time to converse. Normally, most of the conversations begin with the different cultural backgrounds and how I’ve found South Africa so far. After that, you never know where the conversation will lead to next. After a few minutes of awkward silence, Rudzani mentioned how every time he heads to stellenbosch, it reminds him of his ex girlfriend who happened to be white.  

I was somewhat taken back but it did spark curiosity on my end. I began to ask questions to get more insight. I asked him on his views about dating in this generation among many other things. But one thing that stood out was his views on interracial dating. 

According to Rudzani, it has never been about the skin color but more of cultural difference. Apparently most colored and white women from Cape Town are completely different from where he is from. Being an old school, traditional kind of guy, he believes in finding a woman who is cultured. Meaning aside from doing the “womanly duties,” one that can also work and contribute to the building of the family both emotionally and financially. 

Out of every one I have come across, most people who believe that the woman should stay home and bear children, do not believe in the woman working and vice versa. But for Rudzani he wanted both. 

In a sense I cannot help but somewhat agree. As much as we have evolved, I do think that somethings men do better compared to women as well as women do other things better than men. Most of those that women do better than men tend to fall into the category of “womanly duties”. Don’t get me wrong that men can’t do the same things as women and vise versa but I just feel that there’s a touch that gender roles do add that the opposite gender cannot attain. 

For example, a mothers love. Yes a single dad can raise a child on his own but without that feminine motherly touch, the child will always yearn and seek for it when they get older. I am aware of also the Daddy issues syndrome that most girls who have not had their fathers in their lives face. But looking at the bigger picture a mothers love/influence is way more important and levels higher. This is just my take on it. Not saying that I am right but my perspective. 

Share your comments and let me know what you think.