The thought of traveling to Tanzania is still a laughable joke. It was so spontaneous, I am very surprised with the turn that it took (Of course in a good way).

Initially, the plan was to visit Kigali in Rwanda. I mean we started planning this trip all the way in October of last year (2018). Ever since we had a lay over in Rwanda back in 2016 en-route to Dubai, we instantly fell in love and knew that this was a city that had to be added to the bucket list. Continue reading “Dare-salaam, TZ. 🇹🇿🌍”

Come through 2019. This year started off on such a high and positive note. Y’all know that traveling has always been my thing and by the time this trip came about, it felt like I was caged for way too long.

I spent my last days of 2018 and my first few days of 2019 living it up across the pond. I was fortunate enough to make my way to London during my first Europe tour and words cannot even describe how amazing it was. Continue reading “Across The Pond 🇬🇧🌏”

Grown-ish

If there was a legit manual/school or even class on how to adult that one can get access to, please sign me up. I’ve heard it all. From my fellow co-workers, friends and even mentors. They say, “It never gets easier to figure it out, it only gets easier to cope and work your way through it“. Don’t be fooled by what you see online and on social media. People only want you to see what they want you to see. Most of us are struggling or just making the ‘struggle bus‘ look very cute.

We so are so used to a systematic environment from the day you start school but they don’t prepare you once your out of the system. By “they” I am reffering to the education system and institutes. Unless the system has been changed, those in my age group or older know exactly what I am talking about.

I have recently found my self going to seminars and little workshops that teach you  certain things. Like financial advising, money, paying and shopping for health insurance among many others. lets just say adulting is really hard!

Not too long ago, I ran into my high school teacher and home-girl was calling and saying it like it is (love that about her). I remember after chatting about everybody who was in my year that she kept in touch with, I dared to ask her what she thought how my life would turn out. I will not embarass my self by telling yall her thoughts but long story short, she did not hold back. According to her, I was one of the few that somewhat surprised her. Knowing me, I’ve never been predictable but it did feel good to be viewed from a different perspective.

Experiences and conversations through this journey of adulthood have definitely taught me one thing. Never compare your self to those around you. Just like in a race, those who win never look at their competitors. Everybody has their own path. Remaining humble and trusting your own process, is truly a test of its own.

Looking back, 2018 will be a pivotal chapter in my life. In a way, it’s been a remarkable yet the hardest stage of my life. The good has been really great while the bad has been some of the worst fall. Being able to balance everything from responsibilities, expectations, social life/relationships and even that self-care that’s very essential, has been a task.

Now that I have hit a quater life century, it really hit me that one has to be able to prioritize and be realistic when it comes to following your dreams and facing reality. I guess you can’t have it all. Everything comes with a price whether you realize it or not.  Yup, adulting is no joke.

For those who are in college and are really eager to finish and join adulthood, I emphasize to take your time and enjoy right now because that was once me. I would give anything to go back and maybe plan myself a little bit more and enjoy living under my parents roof. Not worrying about bills, loans or fulfilling the worlds expectations.

NEW YORK, NEW YORK🏙🗽🌆

It’s the city that never sleeps. From its vibrant culture and city lights to the hustle and flow mentality of every soul, New York might just be the next move.  I know I have always wanted to move out from my home state (Lowell, Massachusetts) and move to a place where I could finally plant my own roots and lay the foundation of my life. As scary and crazy as it sounds the big apple might be destined for me.

So this whole idea started when I recently went for a weekend to celebrate a friend’s birth day.   Long story short it was LIT. I am talking about from the night life to a day of sightseeing. We ended up renting an Airbnb in Manhattan for the few days we were there and commuted everywhere using subway or Uber.  Over the years, I have been fortunate enough to visit NYC several times but it was only this time round where I got to see NY for its true authentic self and I completely fell in love. They weren’t wrong when they said home is where the heart is. In the past when I visited, I only did the touristy stuff. Visiting Times Square, Brooklyn Bridge, Statue of Liberty and so on and so forth. But it was until I got to experience the culture is when I finally fell in love.

NY is well known for its diversity. It’s literally a melting pot of everybody from different cultures and all walks of all life. One thing for sure, you’re bound to at least meet every race and ethnicity. According to worldsrtides.com, More than 800 languages are spoken in New York City, making it the most linguistically diverse city in the world. 4 in 10 households speak a language other than English.

It’s crazy because everybody that I have told about the idea of moving to NY has basically looked at me crazy. They get this look on their face of ‘WTF’. The notion of NY being an expensive city and the fast paced doesn’t scare me at all. I mean it does a little bit but it’s in the sense of the fact that I am getting out of my comfort zone. But all in all the idea of proving everybody wrong and challenging myself on a different level of capacity is one of the few things that’s actually attracting me to it.

In this journey, I have made sure to check other parts of NY just in case this whole city thing doesn’t really work out for me. I had the opportunity to visit a good friend who lives in Albany, NY. Albany definitely shocked me. It wasn’t what I expected it to be. Meaning, I was expecting upstate New York vibes and a whole lot of countryside. (I apologize for my ignorance and bad geography skills.) Although being the capital for NY and way much smaller than NYC, it left a good impression on me. A city that’s way more diverse in every aspect than what I am used to still contributed to my love for the state as a whole. Let’s not forget the beauty of its architectural buildings and its rich history of the American people.

When I think of living in the big apple I picture myself like the likes of Janet mock the co-stars of the new show hustle in Brooklyn, Jessica Parker in sex and the city and some of my favorite people that I follow or look up to. From their career paths to the social lifestyle. Low-key, they have made it look easy but I am ready to hustle and grind to make it in this big city. Failure is absolutely not an option.

All in all I am not putting my eggs all in one basket. The whole point of this post is to put the idea out into the universe and let it manifest towards my end goal. Maybe New York will not work out. It might be a different city or town in Massachusetts or even a different country but am so ready to plant my seeds in a different garden. Wherever that maybe, I am ready to spread my wings and soar.

2018 Baby!!!✨🙌🏾💥

It’s been a minute since I put my thoughts into words. Basically, I have been MIA (Missing in Action) from blogging. I have never thought of myself as a writer but more of a story teller through word of mouth. Blogging was just an alternative that I fell in love with along the way.

Most of you who write or blog already know that the hardest part about the job aside from having ‘writers block’ is being able to keep up with the writing. For me the disease of a “writer’s block” did not affect me, It was merely just a case of laziness and lack of motivation that drove me away. Don’t get me wrong either, Life also played its role in contributing to me being MIA but hey, I am taking full responsibility and I am back now! 2018 is a new year, new me.

A lot has happened since I last shared with ya’ll. I ended up quitting my job as a server, travelled a little bit more, got a new job and last but not least, the biggest change out of them all was me moving into my own apartment or should I say studio. I also met new friends along the way and became closer to folks I never thought we would cross paths. I know it’s crazy because one of my last post that I wrote last year, I talked about sharing my journey and bringing you guys along. I am a man of my word and I still vow to share those stories with you as part of my content. I am thinking of creating a segment called ‘Story Time’. This is where I will share my stories that were content worthy that I should have shared with yall in the past. A lot of vloggers do this on their YouTube pages. For those who are avid YouTube watchers, it’s pretty much the same thing.

Just in case you’re still wondering, Afro Flava is still pushing through. I still cook part time and I must say the experience has taught and still teaches me new things every day. #FuturePost

As of now let’s cheers to new beginnings, more content and new adventures.

The so called “Dating Life”😕.

The journey to self-discovery has no end! It’s a continuous voyage that one can only learn along the way while being put to the test to what you have already learned. Life has not wasted any moment in putting me through different tests, where I have had to prove that I did learn from my past and can’t afford to make the same mistakes.

As human beings it’s natural to yearn and search for a soulmate whether for friendship or intimacy through a significant other. Personally I have been open to satisfying this urge and in the process, I have come across folks who are on the path to satisfy the same need. In other words I have joined the dating scene and it’s not as easy or fun as I hoped it would be. It’s actually been more exhausting.

I am quite a social person or so I would like to believe but who thought dating in this generation is a whole type of ball game. Being an old-school type of individual (meaning I’ve tried online dating, not into hook ups or friends with benefits), I feel like a different type of breed partaking in the world of dating among my peer group. If you don’t know what I am talking about, monogamous/committed relationships in my generation is quite hard to find. Personally I’ve always been open to dating, so I’ve had my share of online dates as well as “fun” but just recently, is when I became serious about it. Especially now that its summer and its a new chapter of my life, I thought I would give it a shot.

Funny how some people that I’ve met can really test your whole being (insecurities and all). I guess the point of this blog post is that there’s a very thin line to settling for less in order to fulfill the urge of finding a significant other. Whether it’s for intimacy or just friendship. Being always the single one among your friends can get pretty frustrating. Although I do know what I deserve, I would be lying if I said that through this process I’ve allowed to be disrespected to a certain extent where I did question my worthiness. Hence my self-discovery journey was put to the test.

Now that I’ve moved back home, I also thought I would reconnect old friendships as well as extend olive branches to friendships that had died. Being in a new found space doesn’t mean the other party is in the same type of space. As much as I have gained and grown from this friendships, it doesn’t mean that they will last forever. As my mother always said, “friends come and go, some of them are just designated  for a season.

Part of being an adult and truly loving yourself flaws and all, is realizing when to let go. Moving forward, dating for me will be put to the back burner as I focus my energy on other projects and adventures that I would love to venture on. This is not to say that I have given up but rather allow for the process to come naturally and let fate make its course.

Post Grad Life🎓!

It’s exhilarating not having a damn thing that’s due or having to mentally prepare for the next school semester. I mean don’t get me wrong, knowing your off from school for the summer is thrilling but this time it’s a different kind of thrill. NO MORE SCHOOL….EVER!!

I can’t even explain to you how I have yearned for this type of lifestyle. Where you’re done with school and knowing that you don’t have to follow a certain type of systematic institution policy. It’s almost as if it’s a lifetime achievement where you’ve paid your debt to the world (fulfilling all the expectations placed upon you) and now finding your way through life as an adult.

It’s been exactly 30 days since I graduated. Question is what have I done in that period of time? After countless job applications and subsequently getting rejected from all the interviews I’ve gone to, I have accepted the fact that maybe my destiny is to take the rest of the year and really figure out exactly what it is I want to do with my life. (aside from the norm of getting a job within your field and starting a career/life). Not going to lie, seeing my colleagues starting their careers within their prospective fields, others getting engaged and moving in with their significant others or also moving in to their first apartments makes me feel left out or not on the right path.

This is where the true meaning and understanding that everybody has their own path in life comes to play. Knowing that God’s timing is the best time and whatever is meant for you shall only be for you. In the meantime I have dedicated this time to continue finding myself. This will be a different kind of soul searching that one has to go through after you’ve spent your whole life continuously following a systematic set of rules which we all know as education. If you come to think of it, you’ve been learning from the day you were born and now the term student that has always been a part of your identity does no longer apply.

As you all know food has always been my passion. I have started an Instagram page solely devoted to showcasing my cheffing skills as well as giving food/restaurant reviews. Revising the idea of falling in love back with my music aspirations is also part of the plan. I want to upscale my fashion sense and take it a notch higher. (Whatever that maybe I am not sure). I also want to be cultured in every aspect. That includes more travelling, meeting new people and trying new things. But most of all I want fall deeper in love with myself (flaws & all) as well as those around me. I hope and pray that by next year I will have exhausted everything that I have always wanted to do and have either been afraid or just lazy but most of all, prepared to jump in the adult life and serve what I was put on this earth for!

PS: Stay tuned to this adventure of a roller-coaster that I plan to take! Will be documenting every part of it.