Podcasts📻🎙

One thing I have learned is that the older you get, you tend to look for different things to inspire you and motivate you. You can call this part of adulting but at this stage of my life, I am always in search of things that are relatable or fall in line with where I am at currently. While reading self-help books, or biographies is the obvious go-to answer, podcasts are a good alternative. Also being the fact that podcasting is the new wave, I was very curious to check it out and give it a shot. I haven’t gotten a chance to listen to an audiobook yet but I am guessing it is the same experience.

With such a busy schedule, I have been able to incorporate podcasts into my lifestyle. I listen to my fave podcast in the car, when I am at the gym or even in the morning when I am getting ready for work.  If podcasts are your thing or you are looking to get started, here is my top five that I think everybody, especially in our generation, Should listen to.

The spread:

This is the first podcast that ever I listened to and will forever remain a classic.  My best friend Natalie actually introduce me to it. shes also one of the few that influenced me into the podcast gang. when I started listening to podcasts, I was using Sound Cloud and this is because it was the only place you could find The Spread podcast at the time. The Spread is an R-rated Kenyan podcast that was started out by Nini Wacera and Kaz. Nini is a well-renowned actress and radio host while Kaz is a musician, socialite and influencer within the entertainment industry in Kenya.  Both women talk everything about sex, sexuality and body. It basically revolves around sex positivity and all aspects of embracing it. The spread has now even grown to bigger height with only Kaz being the host. Not sure what happened to Nini but it kinda wasn’t the same for me. Although its still remains one of my favourite podcasts.

Jesus and Jollof:

Currently, this is on repeat. A podcast that’s hosted by Yvonne Orji from the show Insecure on HBO and Luvvie Ajayi whose an author, speaker, and digital strategist. These two friends came together and literally created a masterpiece. With both of them being Nigerian, all their stories are based from an African perspective. They talk about relationships, religion, their struggles to following their dreams within the entertainment industry and most of all, being black and African in a Donald trump world. Their chemistry is out of this world and they are hilarious. I promise you, you will die laughing especially when they switch back and forth into their Nigerian accents. let’s just say I have listened to the whole season more than once.

Rants and Randomness:

This is also another fave. It is a solo podcast by the same Luvvie Ajayi from Jesus and Jollof. she started this podcast way before Jesus and Jollof and is part of her brand. In this podcast, Ajayi shares advice and knowledge about trending topics that she’s passionate about and also rants on things that shes come across. Within every episode, Ajayi interviews black successful individuals who have made it within the industry. From Shea Moisture CEO and creator Rich Dennis to actor and singer Jussie Smollet.  the guests on this podcast talk about their struggles and their journey to where there are today.

Super Soul Sunday:  This podcast is Oprah’s personal selection of her interviews and conversations with thought-leaders, authors and health & wellness experts. I don’t have cable but I’ve always been a huge fan of super soul Sunday so it’s really nice to get these free episodes through the podcast. this podcast is where I get my Spiritual and mental health fix. literally food to my soul.

So these are just a few of the podcast that I am crazy about. I listen to them on a regular basis and are my go-to when I need to be inspired or just re-energized emotionally and mentally. Because I have an iPhone, I am able to use the podcast app that’s already installed on the phone. Its a very user-friendly and has made it much easier to access my favorite podcasts. #teamiphoneallday

make sure to like, share and leave a comment on your take on podcasts as well as let me know what you think about these specific podcast.

NEW YORK, NEW YORK🏙🗽🌆

It’s the city that never sleeps. From its vibrant culture and city lights to the hustle and flow mentality of every soul, New York might just be the next move.  I know I have always wanted to move out from my home state (Lowell, Massachusetts) and move to a place where I could finally plant my own roots and lay the foundation of my life. As scary and crazy as it sounds the big apple might be destined for me.

So this whole idea started when I recently went for a weekend to celebrate a friend’s birth day.   Long story short it was LIT. I am talking about from the night life to a day of sightseeing. We ended up renting an Airbnb in Manhattan for the few days we were there and commuted everywhere using subway or Uber.  Over the years, I have been fortunate enough to visit NYC several times but it was only this time round where I got to see NY for its true authentic self and I completely fell in love. They weren’t wrong when they said home is where the heart is. In the past when I visited, I only did the touristy stuff. Visiting Times Square, Brooklyn Bridge, Statue of Liberty and so on and so forth. But it was until I got to experience the culture is when I finally fell in love.

NY is well known for its diversity. It’s literally a melting pot of everybody from different cultures and all walks of all life. One thing for sure, you’re bound to at least meet every race and ethnicity. According to worldsrtides.com, More than 800 languages are spoken in New York City, making it the most linguistically diverse city in the world. 4 in 10 households speak a language other than English.

It’s crazy because everybody that I have told about the idea of moving to NY has basically looked at me crazy. They get this look on their face of ‘WTF’. The notion of NY being an expensive city and the fast paced doesn’t scare me at all. I mean it does a little bit but it’s in the sense of the fact that I am getting out of my comfort zone. But all in all the idea of proving everybody wrong and challenging myself on a different level of capacity is one of the few things that’s actually attracting me to it.

In this journey, I have made sure to check other parts of NY just in case this whole city thing doesn’t really work out for me. I had the opportunity to visit a good friend who lives in Albany, NY. Albany definitely shocked me. It wasn’t what I expected it to be. Meaning, I was expecting upstate New York vibes and a whole lot of countryside. (I apologize for my ignorance and bad geography skills.) Although being the capital for NY and way much smaller than NYC, it left a good impression on me. A city that’s way more diverse in every aspect than what I am used to still contributed to my love for the state as a whole. Let’s not forget the beauty of its architectural buildings and its rich history of the American people.

When I think of living in the big apple I picture myself like the likes of Janet mock the co-stars of the new show hustle in Brooklyn, Jessica Parker in sex and the city and some of my favorite people that I follow or look up to. From their career paths to the social lifestyle. Low-key, they have made it look easy but I am ready to hustle and grind to make it in this big city. Failure is absolutely not an option.

All in all I am not putting my eggs all in one basket. The whole point of this post is to put the idea out into the universe and let it manifest towards my end goal. Maybe New York will not work out. It might be a different city or town in Massachusetts or even a different country but am so ready to plant my seeds in a different garden. Wherever that maybe, I am ready to spread my wings and soar.

LUCY

I wouldn’t call myself a creative guru but after this photoshoot, might as well add it to my repertoire.

Since the beginning of summer, one of my best friend Lucy mentioned that she wanted to do a photo shoot for her 24th  birthday. Now I am not sure if you remember her from one of my last post, “Whitney”. she was the creative director/Make up Artist on that shoot and we created magic. Just like me, homegirl knows how to work the camera behind and in front of the lens.

I would say lucy and I are one and the same when it comes to the creative aspects. We tend to be on the same page and have the same vision. For this photoshoot, I was very eager to challenge myself on the creative director role, especially with the trust and confidence that my dear friend bestowed upon me.

We also partnered up with our other good friend Rita, owner and publisher of VisualMag who is a beast when it comes to photography. A woman who’s dedicated her career to telling stories through visuals has proven that dreams can be valid with a lot of hard work, ambition and the attitude of a “go-getter’. Make sure to check out her work and be inspired.

We woke up at 3 am and had to be at the location (Salem, MA) by 5 am in order to catch the sunrise. The whole point of the shoot was to catch that natural lighting. Believe it or not, this was the first photo shoot we ever did as friends many moons ago. Aside from the runaround, being at this location brought so many memories and added that bit of luck and charm for a successful shoot. We literally watched and experienced an idea that started out as a joke come to life.

Lucy, I hope this was everything you dreamed of. As you mark another year in the bag, I wish you more joy and happiness. Better yet, I grant you the wish of partnering with me in the many more projects to come.

Through my previous posts, I believe I have proven to Y’all my capabilities as a model and photographer. Now check me out as I dominate the role of Creative Director. Make sure to show some love, subscribe, repost if you can and comment. Enjoy the pictures.

Back At It. 🥂🍷🍾#winetasting

It’s been close to two years since I visited a vineyard and had a wine tasting session. Today, all the memories came rushing back from the mini adventures that I ventured in South Africa through my wine tasting escapades. Oh Stellenbosch how I miss you.

For those who’ve been with me from back in the day, I am sure you know what am talking about. If you haven’t, please do yourself a favour and go check out my archives and you’ll get all the way caught up.

I got a chance to visit Nashoba Valley Winery in Bolton Massachusetts with a group of special folks. Two of my co-workers who I adore to death and Esther who I met for the first time but had a lot of mutual friends. Esther if you’re reading this, I am still baffled why our so called “friends” never introduced us because the connection was too real.

This is my first official wine tasting experience in America and I must say, “What the hell have I been doing with my life?” Quick note to all my wine lovers. It doesn’t matter what location, city or country. The culture of wine tasting is literally all the same. As soon as we arrived, I felt right at home. Not to be extra and all dramatic but I did feel like the prodigal son that had finally returned home.

For just $15, we got to taste and sample 10 different wines out of at least 20 options based on one’s preference. Well technically, you get 10 tokens and you can use them to sample wine, beer or brandy. Of course I used all of mine to try the wines.  Compared to Rands (SA currency🇿🇦), this is some bull pricing but for the average Americans, this is absolutely affordable. The atmosphere and the energy was absolutely amazing. From the open greenery fields to the actual vineyards, the views were absolutely stunning and very relaxing as well.

Towards the end, we bought a couple bottle of wines. Some to take home and the rest to sip while we ate and enjoyed the day and the views.  What better way to soak it all in with some good vibes, friends and amazing outlooks.

The weather was perfect as well which added to the aesthetics of the property that contributed to a dope Instagram pic. As I am getting older, the clubbing scene/night life is kinda getting too outdated for me and I am finding myself leaning towards these kind of vibes and hobbies.

I absolutely recommend for everyone to check out Nashoba Valley Winery. It’s perfect for a date, mini day get away for couples, friends and even with family. Stay tuned because there’s definitely gonna be more post on my wine adventures.

WHITNEY

They say that in photography there is a reality so subtle, that it becomes more real than reality. It’s definitely a different perspective when you look through the lens of a camera. I bet most of my fellow photographers can relate to what I mean. When taking a picture, there is one thing the photograph must contain, the humanity of the moment. We all view the world and its content through the lens of the human eye. A good photographer must attain that humanity of the moment with every picture through just the lens of a camera.

I got the opportunity to shoot my old time friend Whitney with the help of one of my closest friends Lucy.  I met Whitney through a friend of a friend and it was an instant connection. Her soft spoken voice that filled the room with so much vibrance and personality which was easily recognizable. Oh and you can’t forget that touch of the ‘Lowell hood’ with a sprinkle of a southern belle which she expressed with every reference of “ooooh child” in every sentence of a story she told. She knows what I am talking about.

Whitney was the first person that I experienced the late night city lights of Boston. This was around the summer of 2012 and every other day we would drive my little hoopty hoopty, otherwise known as black cherry into Boston. We would immerse ourselves into the city’s diverse population and culture that we lacked back in our hometown. We shared our dreams and goals to each other as we made promises to our future self.  This was about 5-6 years ago. After losing touch, life as you know it had a funny way of bringing us back together.

Whitney is now about 36weeks pregnant and had asked me to do a maternity shoot of her before she gave birth. Of course I had to bring in my partner in crime Lucy, who is my creative twin that we see eye to eye when it comes to the art of fashion. Lucy helped me execute this one of a kind master piece.

 

Lucy, who’s a Picasso when it comes to make up, helped with co-directing of the shoot and setting up of the scenes. Of course her energy and positive vibes added to the ambiance of the room.

 

What was only expected to be a just a favor for an old time friend, turned out to be the best baby shower gift I could give to her. Here is to you Whitney as you begin this new chapter of your life. I know you’re going to rock being the best mom in the world.  Happy Mother’s day.

The so called “Dating Life”😕.

The journey to self-discovery has no end! It’s a continuous voyage that one can only learn along the way while being put to the test to what you have already learned. Life has not wasted any moment in putting me through different tests, where I have had to prove that I did learn from my past and can’t afford to make the same mistakes.

As human beings it’s natural to yearn and search for a soulmate whether for friendship or intimacy through a significant other. Personally I have been open to satisfying this urge and in the process, I have come across folks who are on the path to satisfy the same need. In other words I have joined the dating scene and it’s not as easy or fun as I hoped it would be. It’s actually been more exhausting.

I am quite a social person or so I would like to believe but who thought dating in this generation is a whole type of ball game. Being an old-school type of individual (meaning I’ve tried online dating, not into hook ups or friends with benefits), I feel like a different type of breed partaking in the world of dating among my peer group. If you don’t know what I am talking about, monogamous/committed relationships in my generation is quite hard to find. Personally I’ve always been open to dating, so I’ve had my share of online dates as well as “fun” but just recently, is when I became serious about it. Especially now that its summer and its a new chapter of my life, I thought I would give it a shot.

Funny how some people that I’ve met can really test your whole being (insecurities and all). I guess the point of this blog post is that there’s a very thin line to settling for less in order to fulfill the urge of finding a significant other. Whether it’s for intimacy or just friendship. Being always the single one among your friends can get pretty frustrating. Although I do know what I deserve, I would be lying if I said that through this process I’ve allowed to be disrespected to a certain extent where I did question my worthiness. Hence my self-discovery journey was put to the test.

Now that I’ve moved back home, I also thought I would reconnect old friendships as well as extend olive branches to friendships that had died. Being in a new found space doesn’t mean the other party is in the same type of space. As much as I have gained and grown from this friendships, it doesn’t mean that they will last forever. As my mother always said, “friends come and go, some of them are just designated  for a season.

Part of being an adult and truly loving yourself flaws and all, is realizing when to let go. Moving forward, dating for me will be put to the back burner as I focus my energy on other projects and adventures that I would love to venture on. This is not to say that I have given up but rather allow for the process to come naturally and let fate make its course.

South Western Tip of Africa🌍🇿🇦

I have never really considered myself an outdoor type of person but I think that notion might slightly change to more of a nature lover.

My adoration for nature has tremendously grown and I seem to appreciate it little by little over the years. Not that I have never loved nature but let’s just say that my comfortability in the city, kind of enhanced my closed mindedness when it came to nature. Now this also doesn’t mean that I now love camping, hiking or any of the outdoor activities but for lack of better words, I have grown to see the beauty of it and the interaction one gets with Mother Nature.

I recently got to visit cape point and hiked the trails to the peak. Cape Point marks the south western tip of the African continent, with some of the most Spectacular Ocean and coastal scenery known to man. No doubt, but this was one of the most breath taking views I have ever seen in my life. It is also believed that this is where the two oceans meet. The cold waters of the Atlantic Ocean on the west and the warmer Indian Ocean waters on the east. According to different geographical research, Cape Agulhas which is a few kilometres to the south could also be the point where the two oceans meet. Either way, in both locations you can still notice the difference of the two oceans where one is darker than the other and also the ocean currents. The waves from the Atlantic Ocean tend to be very rough compared to the currents in the Indian Ocean where it is calmer.According to findingtripinfo.com, “The unique characteristics of shoreline, continental shelf, ocean currents and gale force winds can create dangerous rogue waves. The Portuguese mariner Bartolomeu Dias had a particularly bad experience rounding the Cape in 1488 and declared this to be the Cape of Storms (Cabo das Tormentas).”


This is also where Whales too can often be seen between May and November on their annual migration around the Point. If you watch national geographic, this is one of the places they document whales. At least this is what my tour guide told us.

Honestly Words and pictures cannot even describe or showcase half of the beauty that God truly has made. I cannot emphasise enough of how the reflection of the sceneries is as if seeing the face of God. This was truly a life changing experience and I do recommend that it’s a place that one must visit when you travel to South Africa.