It’s been a minute since I put my thoughts into words. Basically, I have been MIA (Missing in Action) from blogging. I have never thought of myself as a writer but more of a story teller through word of mouth. Blogging was just an alternative that I fell in love with along the way.
Most of you who write or blog already know that the hardest part about the job aside from having ‘writers block’ is being able to keep up with the writing. For me the disease of a “writer’s block” did not affect me, It was merely just a case of laziness and lack of motivation that drove me away. Don’t get me wrong either, Life also played its role in contributing to me being MIA but hey, I am taking full responsibility and I am back now! 2018 is a new year, new me.
A lot has happened since I last shared with ya’ll. I ended up quitting my job as a server, travelled a little bit more, got a new job and last but not least, the biggest change out of them all was me moving into my own apartment or should I say studio. I also met new friends along the way and became closer to folks I never thought we would cross paths. I know it’s crazy because one of my last post that I wrote last year, I talked about sharing my journey and bringing you guys along. I am a man of my word and I still vow to share those stories with you as part of my content. I am thinking of creating a segment called ‘Story Time’. This is where I will share my stories that were content worthy that I should have shared with yall in the past. A lot of vloggers do this on their YouTube pages. For those who are avid YouTube watchers, it’s pretty much the same thing.
Just in case you’re still wondering, Afro Flava is still pushing through. I still cook part time and I must say the experience has taught and still teaches me new things every day. #FuturePost
As of now let’s cheers to new beginnings, more content and new adventures.
As I sit down and reflect from the last time I wrote to ya’ll, a lot has quite happened. I mean from dating to finding a job, there’s been quite a personal growth. I recently just got a job as a server at a pretty descent restaurant. Others would call it a classy, high-end but yet affordable. Having worked in the restaurant business before, this was one thing I’ve always shied away from. Getting the three/four dollars an hour is not a conversation one looks forward to hearing especially when you’re in desperate need of fast cash. Now that I am in the industry and knowing what servers go through, it all makes sense. (Future blog post)
Anyways, so ya’ll remember my Instagram food page that I started a few weeks ago? (@Afro_flava) well let’s just say it’s been great so far. What started out as a platform for showcasing my love for food, quickly overturned to a possible business venture.
Not going to lie but all this happened so fast, it still feels like a dream. They say it happens when you least expect it. It all started when one of my good friends had asked me to make her a meal prep (this was when I was struggling to find a job). She offered to buy the main ingredients and pay me $50.00.
At first it seemed like a side hustle but mostly just helping out a friend. Besides I cook all the time on social media so it really didn’t seem much to me. After her reaction of the master piece that I prepared for her, I decided to kinda venture and look for more folks who will be willing to pay for a meal prep.
We’re living in a time where fitness is a trend and all that comes with it (food, fashion, beauty) has become a day to day lifestyle. I believe this is an un-tapped market area so why not be smart and take a risk in this possible business.
I never imagined I will be my own boss, yet again we also never thought Trump would be president. Thus far I’ve gotten a couple of clients here and there but haven’t really gotten a loyal clientele yet. As crazy as it sounds, I feel like maybe this could be the start of something big.
I officially want to introduce you to Afro Flava. A food and beverage company that is dedicated to exploring the art of food and different ways to exciting ones taste buds by catering meal preps.
The journey to self-discovery has no end! It’s a continuous voyage that one can only learn along the way while being put to the test to what you have already learned. Life has not wasted any moment in putting me through different tests, where I have had to prove that I did learn from my past and can’t afford to make the same mistakes.
As human beings it’s natural to yearn and search for a soulmate whether for friendship or intimacy through a significant other. Personally I have been open to satisfying this urge and in the process, I have come across folks who are on the path to satisfy the same need. In other words I have joined the dating scene and it’s not as easy or fun as I hoped it would be. It’s actually been more exhausting.
I am quite a social person or so I would like to believe but who thought dating in this generation is a whole type of ball game. Being an old-school type of individual (meaning I’ve tried online dating, not into hook ups or friends with benefits), I feel like a different type of breed partaking in the world of dating among my peer group. If you don’t know what I am talking about, monogamous/committed relationships in my generation is quite hard to find. Personally I’ve always been open to dating, so I’ve had my share of online dates as well as “fun” but just recently, is when I became serious about it. Especially now that its summer and its a new chapter of my life, I thought I would give it a shot.
Funny how some people that I’ve met can really test your whole being (insecurities and all). I guess the point of this blog post is that there’s a very thin line to settling for less in order to fulfill the urge of finding a significant other. Whether it’s for intimacy or just friendship. Being always the single one among your friends can get pretty frustrating. Although I do know what I deserve, I would be lying if I said that through this process I’ve allowed to be disrespected to a certain extent where I did question my worthiness. Hence my self-discovery journey was put to the test.
Now that I’ve moved back home, I also thought I would reconnect old friendships as well as extend olive branches to friendships that had died. Being in a new found space doesn’t mean the other party is in the same type of space. As much as I have gained and grown from this friendships, it doesn’t mean that they will last forever. As my mother always said, “friends come and go, some of them are just designated for a season.”
Part of being an adult and truly loving yourself flaws and all, is realizing when to let go. Moving forward, dating for me will be put to the back burner as I focus my energy on other projects and adventures that I would love to venture on. This is not to say that I have given up but rather allow for the process to come naturally and let fate make its course.
It’s exhilarating not having a damn thing that’s due or having to mentally prepare for the next school semester. I mean don’t get me wrong, knowing your off from school for the summer is thrilling but this time it’s a different kind of thrill. NO MORE SCHOOL….EVER!!
I can’t even explain to you how I have yearned for this type of lifestyle. Where you’re done with school and knowing that you don’t have to follow a certain type of systematic institution policy. It’s almost as if it’s a lifetime achievement where you’ve paid your debt to the world (fulfilling all the expectations placed upon you) and now finding your way through life as an adult.
It’s been exactly 30 days since I graduated. Question is what have I done in that period of time? After countless job applications and subsequently getting rejected from all the interviews I’ve gone to, I have accepted the fact that maybe my destiny is to take the rest of the year and really figure out exactly what it is I want to do with my life. (aside from the norm of getting a job within your field and starting a career/life). Not going to lie, seeing my colleagues starting their careers within their prospective fields, others getting engaged and moving in with their significant others or also moving in to their first apartments makes me feel left out or not on the right path.
This is where the true meaning and understanding that everybody has their own path in life comes to play. Knowing that God’s timing is the best time and whatever is meant for you shall only be for you. In the meantime I have dedicated this time to continue finding myself. This will be a different kind of soul searching that one has to go through after you’ve spent your whole life continuously following a systematic set of rules which we all know as education. If you come to think of it, you’ve been learning from the day you were born and now the term student that has always been a part of your identity does no longer apply.
As you all know food has always been my passion. I have started an Instagram page solely devoted to showcasing my cheffing skills as well as giving food/restaurant reviews. Revising the idea of falling in love back with my music aspirations is also part of the plan. I want to upscale my fashion sense and take it a notch higher. (Whatever that maybe I am not sure). I also want to be cultured in every aspect. That includes more travelling, meeting new people and trying new things. But most of all I want fall deeper in love with myself (flaws & all) as well as those around me. I hope and pray that by next year I will have exhausted everything that I have always wanted to do and have either been afraid or just lazy but most of all, prepared to jump in the adult life and serve what I was put on this earth for!
PS: Stay tuned to this adventure of a roller-coaster that I plan to take! Will be documenting every part of it.
Momma I Have made it! Yes, it’s official that your boy has graduated with a Bachelor of Science in Electronic Journalism and Arts. May 14th 2017, a day that will be forever be memorable for the rest of my life.
It’s only been a week and I am still high off from the excitement of graduating. I can’t believe that I am finally done!! Believe me when I tell you that I gained a good amount of pounds from that last couple months just trying to stay afloat in order to graduate. Looking back, food was literally my therapy but it was all worth it.
In all seriousness, I never imagined I would be the first one in my family among my siblings to get a degree. Growing up, my parents spent a lot of money on tutors and taking my siblings and I to some of the best schools in Kenya. It’s crazy how that I am finally able to showcase this achievement and letting them see all their hard work pay off.
School has never been my forte. I remember during my early middle school days I used to really struggle in school. Keeping it all the way real, I was the ‘dummy’ kid in class. I was always among the few with the lowest grades in my class. It got soo bad to the point I even had to repeat my 6th grade. I clearly remember my fifth grade teacher even once said that she never saw me making it in life.
So for me to make it to this point in my life where I have a degree is more than a dream come true but a testimony that with Christ anything is possible.
I am not sure what the next step is but I am confident it will all work out in the end! As of now I just want to marinate in these new post Grad lifestyle. (before I get depressed why I have not gotten a job)
It’s been a while since I have posted a blog but let’s just say your boy has been busy trying to adjust back to reality. All that traveling definitely got me used to living a certain type of lifestyle that I pray, I will one day get back to it.
It’s exactly 30 days till my graduation and the senioritis has been REAL!! 👨🏿🎓(The decreased motivation toward studies displayed by students who are nearing the end of their high school, college, and graduate school careers). Low-key, I have had senioritis since my freshman year of college. This is the one thing in my life that’s actually hitting me way before the finish line. Normally, I am one of those people that reality hits at the actual moment. Funny enough I haven’t truly expressed or told many folks about my graduation except close friends and family. Mainly because I have this thing of not really telling people about anything major happening in my life, until it’s actually happening. I may speak of it lightly but not make it serious enough. This is because I am afraid of jinxing it or getting ahead of myself. (I know I am paranoid like that).
This is such a big deal for me. I can’t even imagine that I am finally so close to the finish line to get my bachelors📜. I am not really a school person so you can only imagine the struggle. The only reason I’ve gotten this far is just because I know the importance of education and this is a ‘plan B’ for me because in my head, I know I want to follow my music and acting career. (Realistically what are my chances though?) For those of you who don’t know, I am a journalism student at Lyndon state college up in Vermont.
Now that I am about to finish this chapter of my life, I can’t help but question and wonder what to do with my life next. Actually in all honesty, I am frieking out and afraid. Like I know the whole routine where one is expected to get a job and jump into the workforce but I can’t help but strongly feel that that’s not my path. It also doesn’t help that I have been rejected in a couple of job entrees. I know I am meant to do something greater that’s even bigger than myself first, then adult later (Travel, Peacecorp/Americorps, follow my dreams….etc). Then again the question is where do I start, where do I take the first step and how do I know that whatever path I decide to take is the right path.
It has been a long eventful 6 months and in just a couple of hours I will be getting on a flight back home.🛫✈️ Words cannot even express the emotions, thoughts and feelings racing through my mind.
When I started this adventure, I was running away from the norm in my life. Looking forward to something new and opening myself to new possibilities, friends and most of all, a new dream to live and fight for. The man that I was beginning this journey is not the same man that I am right now as I write this blog.
Looking back, its not as easy and glamorous as it looks or sounds. I have been forced to face my fears, tackle new challenges, spend a lot of money, find myself and even re-evalute my life. Through this process I have been truly humbled. Theres been a lot of tears, joy, laughter and most of all, a closer relationship with God.
As I go back home, I vow to practice all that I have learnt in the past 6 months and live life to the fullest. The motivation and inspiration that I was all along looking for, has ignited the fire in my heart that was once dying out.Reflecting on the memories, adventures, old friends that I have re-connected and new friendships that I have made along the way, will truly and forever be tattooed in my heart.
Thank you to all those who took the time to walk with me through this journey. See you on the other side.👋🏾✌🏾