To others, the mere thought of Kenya is just another travel destination on the bucket list or another passport stamp. For me, it was another opportunity to reconnect with my roots and another chance to remind myself exactly where I came from.

This was my second time to visit Kenya ever since I migrated to the states. (check out my first post of the first time I went back to KENYA). This time round was also special because I saved every dime for this trip to finally go back home. This gave me so much liberation to do exactly what I want and when to. For my fellow African diasporants, yall know what I mean. Every time we visit back home, there are certain obligations that are expected from us. what makes it worse, is the limited amount of time one has to fulfill those obligations while trying to make the most out of your trip. But now that I was going independently and not relying on my parents whatsoever, gave me more freedom and a good reason to only do the things that mattered to me. Aside from reconnecting with family and old friends, your boy was actually doing some adulting things. (upcoming post)

Apart from the warm tropical weather that I had really missed, Nairobi, also known as ‘the city under the sun‘ introduced me to a whole other world. From the social lifestyle to the luxuries and the hustle and grind that Kenyans especially the youth, are currently doing to survive in this one of a kind city. I also had the pleasure of staying with my cousins who live right in the city (S/O to Madaraka). This not only cut the the costs for me significantly but I had access to everything.

For those who haven’t gotten a chance to visit this beautiful country, let me tell you exactly what you are missing out. Kenya is one of the East African countries that is known for its endless savannah, vast wildlife diversity as well as its coastal beaches. As much as I would like to take the credit, I think African Mecca Safaris explains it way better than I would. Among many other things that this gem of a country has to offer, you cannot help but get absorbed by the culture. This ranges both traditionally from all the 52 tribes found in the country to the fast paced city life that Nairobi which is the capital city, has made an impact regionally and within Africa as a whole.

Being the foodie that I am, I was on a mission to experience all the restaurants in Nairobi. Every hyped restaurant that I had seen socialites like Mandi Sarro and Jay take a pic rave about, were number one on the itenary. Calorie counts and conscious weight gain was the least of my problems. From the street food to the fine dining my little budget could afford, my tastebuds had orgasms on the regular. My obsession with avocados were fully satisfied by having it with every meal I consumed. The luxury of having happy hour at major hot spots with rooftop views everyday of the week, definitely took a toll on my liver but no regrets whatsoever. Some might actually argue that I was truly living my best life.

I was in Kenya for about a month. Although I was only in Nairobi, it didn’t change the fact that I got to do so much stuff which I didn’t get to do last time I visited. The night life scene definitely proved to me why Kenyans are known for our huge consumption of alcohol. Come rain or sunshine we will always find a reason to have a drink. Clubbing on a monday is never heard off until you are in Kenya.

I found it very easy to mannouver around the city and to visit all this locations, ofcourse with the help of friends and family. I also had an advantage which is never the case due to the fact that I could speak the language/slang and that I once resided in Kenya. I must say that these time round I was a bit bougie with my form of transportation as I only used Uber or the motor bike rides otherwise known as ‘Boda, Boda’ or ‘Nduthi‘ when I felt daring and spontaneos.

All in all this was the exact break I needed. Reuniting with family, childhood friends and forming new relationships played a significant role in this trip. Those that I connected with and bonded on such a deeper level were the best part of the trip. Just as life was beginning to feel regular and I was not a tourist/visitor anymore, It was time for me to go back to reality. I never cry but leaving home was a one of kind heart break.

If you didn’t keep up with me on social media, attached below is the visual aspect of the whole trip. Make sure to share, subscribe and comment. Thanks for stopping by.

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The thought of traveling to Tanzania is still a laughable joke. It was so spontaneous, I am very surprised with the turn that it took (Of course in a good way).

Initially, the plan was to visit Kigali in Rwanda. I mean we started planning this trip all the way in October of last year (2018). Ever since we had a lay over in Rwanda back in 2016 en-route to Dubai, we instantly fell in love and knew that this was a city that had to be added to the bucket list. Continue reading “Dare-salaam, TZ. 🇹🇿🌍”

You cannot visit London and not make your way to Paris. It doesn’t work like that and is completely un-natural. Paris is literally 2hrs away by train and even shorter by flight. During my Euro tour, these two cities were a must and literally the two main destinations.

I’ve always thought of visiting Paris in the winter time. Pictures and aesthetics wise, it just made sense in my head. Also the foodie that I am, I was eager and very excited to visit the cuisine capital. Paris is the capital of France. Just like London, it is a major European city and a global center for art, fashion,  and culture. Known for its major landmark like the Eiffel Tower and the 12th-century Gothic Notre-Dame cathedral, the city is known for its cafe culture and designer boutiques along the Rue du Faubourg Saint-Honoré. Continue reading “PARIS 🇫🇷”

Come through 2019. This year started off on such a high and positive note. Y’all know that traveling has always been my thing and by the time this trip came about, it felt like I was caged for way too long.

I spent my last days of 2018 and my first few days of 2019 living it up across the pond. I was fortunate enough to make my way to London during my first Europe tour and words cannot even describe how amazing it was. Continue reading “Across The Pond 🇬🇧🌏”

Podcasts📻🎙

One thing I have learned is that the older you get, you tend to look for different things to inspire you and motivate you. You can call this part of adulting but at this stage of my life, I am always in search of things that are relatable or fall in line with where I am at currently. While reading self-help books, or biographies is the obvious go-to answer, podcasts are a good alternative. Also being the fact that podcasting is the new wave, I was very curious to check it out and give it a shot. I haven’t gotten a chance to listen to an audiobook yet but I am guessing it is the same experience.

With such a busy schedule, I have been able to incorporate podcasts into my lifestyle. I listen to my fave podcast in the car, when I am at the gym or even in the morning when I am getting ready for work.  If podcasts are your thing or you are looking to get started, here is my top five that I think everybody, especially in our generation, Should listen to.

The spread:

This is the first podcast that ever I listened to and will forever remain a classic.  My best friend Natalie actually introduce me to it. shes also one of the few that influenced me into the podcast gang. when I started listening to podcasts, I was using Sound Cloud and this is because it was the only place you could find The Spread podcast at the time. The Spread is an R-rated Kenyan podcast that was started out by Nini Wacera and Kaz. Nini is a well-renowned actress and radio host while Kaz is a musician, socialite and influencer within the entertainment industry in Kenya.  Both women talk everything about sex, sexuality and body. It basically revolves around sex positivity and all aspects of embracing it. The spread has now even grown to bigger height with only Kaz being the host. Not sure what happened to Nini but it kinda wasn’t the same for me. Although its still remains one of my favourite podcasts.

Jesus and Jollof:

Currently, this is on repeat. A podcast that’s hosted by Yvonne Orji from the show Insecure on HBO and Luvvie Ajayi whose an author, speaker, and digital strategist. These two friends came together and literally created a masterpiece. With both of them being Nigerian, all their stories are based from an African perspective. They talk about relationships, religion, their struggles to following their dreams within the entertainment industry and most of all, being black and African in a Donald trump world. Their chemistry is out of this world and they are hilarious. I promise you, you will die laughing especially when they switch back and forth into their Nigerian accents. let’s just say I have listened to the whole season more than once.

Rants and Randomness:

This is also another fave. It is a solo podcast by the same Luvvie Ajayi from Jesus and Jollof. she started this podcast way before Jesus and Jollof and is part of her brand. In this podcast, Ajayi shares advice and knowledge about trending topics that she’s passionate about and also rants on things that shes come across. Within every episode, Ajayi interviews black successful individuals who have made it within the industry. From Shea Moisture CEO and creator Rich Dennis to actor and singer Jussie Smollet.  the guests on this podcast talk about their struggles and their journey to where there are today.

Super Soul Sunday:  This podcast is Oprah’s personal selection of her interviews and conversations with thought-leaders, authors and health & wellness experts. I don’t have cable but I’ve always been a huge fan of super soul Sunday so it’s really nice to get these free episodes through the podcast. this podcast is where I get my Spiritual and mental health fix. literally food to my soul.

So these are just a few of the podcast that I am crazy about. I listen to them on a regular basis and are my go-to when I need to be inspired or just re-energized emotionally and mentally. Because I have an iPhone, I am able to use the podcast app that’s already installed on the phone. Its a very user-friendly and has made it much easier to access my favorite podcasts. #teamiphoneallday

make sure to like, share and leave a comment on your take on podcasts as well as let me know what you think about these specific podcast.

Grown-ish

If there was a legit manual/school or even class on how to adult that one can get access to, please sign me up. I’ve heard it all. From my fellow co-workers, friends and even mentors. They say, “It never gets easier to figure it out, it only gets easier to cope and work your way through it“. Don’t be fooled by what you see online and on social media. People only want you to see what they want you to see. Most of us are struggling or just making the ‘struggle bus‘ look very cute.

We so are so used to a systematic environment from the day you start school but they don’t prepare you once your out of the system. By “they” I am reffering to the education system and institutes. Unless the system has been changed, those in my age group or older know exactly what I am talking about.

I have recently found my self going to seminars and little workshops that teach you  certain things. Like financial advising, money, paying and shopping for health insurance among many others. lets just say adulting is really hard!

Not too long ago, I ran into my high school teacher and home-girl was calling and saying it like it is (love that about her). I remember after chatting about everybody who was in my year that she kept in touch with, I dared to ask her what she thought how my life would turn out. I will not embarass my self by telling yall her thoughts but long story short, she did not hold back. According to her, I was one of the few that somewhat surprised her. Knowing me, I’ve never been predictable but it did feel good to be viewed from a different perspective.

Experiences and conversations through this journey of adulthood have definitely taught me one thing. Never compare your self to those around you. Just like in a race, those who win never look at their competitors. Everybody has their own path. Remaining humble and trusting your own process, is truly a test of its own.

Looking back, 2018 will be a pivotal chapter in my life. In a way, it’s been a remarkable yet the hardest stage of my life. The good has been really great while the bad has been some of the worst fall. Being able to balance everything from responsibilities, expectations, social life/relationships and even that self-care that’s very essential, has been a task.

Now that I have hit a quater life century, it really hit me that one has to be able to prioritize and be realistic when it comes to following your dreams and facing reality. I guess you can’t have it all. Everything comes with a price whether you realize it or not.  Yup, adulting is no joke.

For those who are in college and are really eager to finish and join adulthood, I emphasize to take your time and enjoy right now because that was once me. I would give anything to go back and maybe plan myself a little bit more and enjoy living under my parents roof. Not worrying about bills, loans or fulfilling the worlds expectations.

NEW YORK, NEW YORK🏙🗽🌆

It’s the city that never sleeps. From its vibrant culture and city lights to the hustle and flow mentality of every soul, New York might just be the next move.  I know I have always wanted to move out from my home state (Lowell, Massachusetts) and move to a place where I could finally plant my own roots and lay the foundation of my life. As scary and crazy as it sounds the big apple might be destined for me.

So this whole idea started when I recently went for a weekend to celebrate a friend’s birth day.   Long story short it was LIT. I am talking about from the night life to a day of sightseeing. We ended up renting an Airbnb in Manhattan for the few days we were there and commuted everywhere using subway or Uber.  Over the years, I have been fortunate enough to visit NYC several times but it was only this time round where I got to see NY for its true authentic self and I completely fell in love. They weren’t wrong when they said home is where the heart is. In the past when I visited, I only did the touristy stuff. Visiting Times Square, Brooklyn Bridge, Statue of Liberty and so on and so forth. But it was until I got to experience the culture is when I finally fell in love.

NY is well known for its diversity. It’s literally a melting pot of everybody from different cultures and all walks of all life. One thing for sure, you’re bound to at least meet every race and ethnicity. According to worldsrtides.com, More than 800 languages are spoken in New York City, making it the most linguistically diverse city in the world. 4 in 10 households speak a language other than English.

It’s crazy because everybody that I have told about the idea of moving to NY has basically looked at me crazy. They get this look on their face of ‘WTF’. The notion of NY being an expensive city and the fast paced doesn’t scare me at all. I mean it does a little bit but it’s in the sense of the fact that I am getting out of my comfort zone. But all in all the idea of proving everybody wrong and challenging myself on a different level of capacity is one of the few things that’s actually attracting me to it.

In this journey, I have made sure to check other parts of NY just in case this whole city thing doesn’t really work out for me. I had the opportunity to visit a good friend who lives in Albany, NY. Albany definitely shocked me. It wasn’t what I expected it to be. Meaning, I was expecting upstate New York vibes and a whole lot of countryside. (I apologize for my ignorance and bad geography skills.) Although being the capital for NY and way much smaller than NYC, it left a good impression on me. A city that’s way more diverse in every aspect than what I am used to still contributed to my love for the state as a whole. Let’s not forget the beauty of its architectural buildings and its rich history of the American people.

When I think of living in the big apple I picture myself like the likes of Janet mock the co-stars of the new show hustle in Brooklyn, Jessica Parker in sex and the city and some of my favorite people that I follow or look up to. From their career paths to the social lifestyle. Low-key, they have made it look easy but I am ready to hustle and grind to make it in this big city. Failure is absolutely not an option.

All in all I am not putting my eggs all in one basket. The whole point of this post is to put the idea out into the universe and let it manifest towards my end goal. Maybe New York will not work out. It might be a different city or town in Massachusetts or even a different country but am so ready to plant my seeds in a different garden. Wherever that maybe, I am ready to spread my wings and soar.